Hitting on People
Jul. 22nd, 2010 08:33 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sageautumnIt is really annoying to live in a world/time where it is so hard to make a comment without it being taken as hitting on someone. (Or, perhaps, this is my own social anxiety talking... not sure.)
This morning I wanted to send* a male on my friends-list a private message... something saying I sort of got what he was going through, and he wasn't alone in his feelings. Nothing more, just... hey, I get you and where you're coming from, if you need to talk, I'm 100% outside, not invested, and am willing to listen**... and because of the nature of what's going on, I didn't send that since I was concerned it'd come off as "let's get clooose".
Which, I'm fine with getting closer to people, but not THAT sort of close. I've got some stuff in life going on I'm happy with, and and some crap going on that doesn't need more complications. So I really didn't/wouldn't mean it that way, but would it come off like that? Dunno, and I guess I'd rather err on the side of caution.
Last night, I read a post on facebook to which I wanted to respond, "In the most platonic way possible, that is incrediably hot!" ... ... which I really am certain there isn't a way to say without it being weird. But hey, what she did was really sexy and neat and whatever... and I have ZERO feelings about it other than "Wow! How sexy that she does that*** herself!"
* and did end up sending a very generic message
**because, FOR ME, there are times when it's way way way easier to vent and talk to someone who has ZERO investment in a situation
***physical labor, typically done by a male... totally unsexual
This morning I wanted to send* a male on my friends-list a private message... something saying I sort of got what he was going through, and he wasn't alone in his feelings. Nothing more, just... hey, I get you and where you're coming from, if you need to talk, I'm 100% outside, not invested, and am willing to listen**... and because of the nature of what's going on, I didn't send that since I was concerned it'd come off as "let's get clooose".
Which, I'm fine with getting closer to people, but not THAT sort of close. I've got some stuff in life going on I'm happy with, and and some crap going on that doesn't need more complications. So I really didn't/wouldn't mean it that way, but would it come off like that? Dunno, and I guess I'd rather err on the side of caution.
Last night, I read a post on facebook to which I wanted to respond, "In the most platonic way possible, that is incrediably hot!" ... ... which I really am certain there isn't a way to say without it being weird. But hey, what she did was really sexy and neat and whatever... and I have ZERO feelings about it other than "Wow! How sexy that she does that*** herself!"
* and did end up sending a very generic message
**because, FOR ME, there are times when it's way way way easier to vent and talk to someone who has ZERO investment in a situation
***physical labor, typically done by a male... totally unsexual
