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sageautumnThe best dating advice (for guys) I've ever heard was something that seemed pretty simple. ASK GIRLS OUT.
My best friend wasn't the best looking guy, didn't lead the most interesting life*, and he hadn't had a date in ages. So he decided he'd try to have thirty dates in a month.
Mind you, these weren't serious dates. They were for coffee, or lunch, or a drink. Sometimes they were more, most often they were not. He asked out pretty much every woman who seemed even remotely interesting (in _whatever_ way) TO him. They didn't have to seem interested IN him**, there didn't have to be much of a spark--he was looking for coffee, not a lifetime commitment or anything. If it went well, fine... if it didn't go well, it was just an hour or so--no harm, no foul.
He got lots of dates--he ended up with about 45 or more if I remember correctly. A lot of the women were "out of his league", and, sure, a lot of them weren't--but they were all practice. He also got LOTS of rejection--which was also good! He learned to be able to accept the rejection, to handle it gracefully, and to not let it get to him.
This is still the best advice I can think of, if you're out of the dating scene and want to be back into it.
It's sort of a longer version of the best pickup line... which is simply, "Hi."
*though it was interesting enough... he didn't creep people out or totally lack social skills.
**they also didn't seem EXTREMELY NOT interested--again, he didn't totally lack social skills.
My best friend wasn't the best looking guy, didn't lead the most interesting life*, and he hadn't had a date in ages. So he decided he'd try to have thirty dates in a month.
Mind you, these weren't serious dates. They were for coffee, or lunch, or a drink. Sometimes they were more, most often they were not. He asked out pretty much every woman who seemed even remotely interesting (in _whatever_ way) TO him. They didn't have to seem interested IN him**, there didn't have to be much of a spark--he was looking for coffee, not a lifetime commitment or anything. If it went well, fine... if it didn't go well, it was just an hour or so--no harm, no foul.
He got lots of dates--he ended up with about 45 or more if I remember correctly. A lot of the women were "out of his league", and, sure, a lot of them weren't--but they were all practice. He also got LOTS of rejection--which was also good! He learned to be able to accept the rejection, to handle it gracefully, and to not let it get to him.
This is still the best advice I can think of, if you're out of the dating scene and want to be back into it.
It's sort of a longer version of the best pickup line... which is simply, "Hi."
*though it was interesting enough... he didn't creep people out or totally lack social skills.
**they also didn't seem EXTREMELY NOT interested--again, he didn't totally lack social skills.
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Date: 2010-09-29 02:41 am (UTC)He said it was much easier than one would think. ... ...that said, he also lived in a very populated urban area, near a university.